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I am a 40-year-old female, cis-het. I have very discerning tastes in men and am always alone. Is there any way to be open without compromising my standards?
If you think you’ve dated more than a dozen men, you’ve either failed or set your standards impossible. Some food for thought: maybe you think you want a long-term relationship because that’s what you’ve been told you should – you’ve been told that’s what all good people want – but you really don’t want a long-term relationship. . They don’t make you happy. But instead of telling yourself that you’re a good person who likes short-term relationships and/or being alone, you’ve set your standards so high—you’ve invited them to sabotage—because you want to be alone. And instead of owning up to yourself, you find fault with the men you date.
PS. There is no sitting idly by.
Anyway to enjoy anal when hemorrhoids?
No I am sorry. It is necessary to wait for his recovery.
I am 36 years old. If I’m too psyched to have anal with my wife (very rarely), should I take some Viagra?
Well, it depends. Does your wife enjoy long anal sex? If the answer to this question is yes, then Viagra can help. Because Viagra and other ED drugs can delay orgasm in addition to helping you stay hard. But if your wife doesn’t like long anal sex sessions—if she generally wants you to hurry up, if she’s long, then the already rare anal sex sessions can be rare. Maybe try a cock instead?
Tips for helping the penis Does it last longer when entering other than roosters? (Cockrings are great, but they don’t help with longevity.)
roosters is great; I recommended them to another reader five seconds ago. However, while a neat but loose cock gently restricts blood flow to his penis and helps keep his penis firm, cock rings do not allow penile holders to “live longer”, for example, they do not delay ejaculation. (Cockring 101: A gentle restraint is good; holding blood in the penis is not. Cock rings should be snug, not tight.) If you’ve tried all of the standard tips for treating premature ejaculation (I’ve covered them before. If not available, ED meds like Viagra may help (for the reasons mentioned above); low-dose SSRIs are also effective treatments for premature ejaculation.
PS Whenever someone writes ‘penis-no’, my slightly dyslexic brain reads ‘penis-half’, like someone who cuts off half of a penis – which some people in the body modification community have done, and one’s appetite is piqued. Google is brave enough to search for images.
For those who love outdoor sex hiking and camping… should we be wary of trail cameras or are the pros hiding in the trees for some reason? How to spot them?
If people are doing that – if people are hiding cameras on popular hiking trails, then you really need to be careful. Walk the beaten path, don’t skimp on it.
Ex-boyfriend is seeing trans prostitutes. Do I tell his current wife if the opportunity arises? Since we live on a small island, that’s what happens. I want to know if we are still together. Shouldn’t he be offered the same?
If you live on a really small island—small enough that everyone knows everyone else’s business, but big enough to have a few transgender employees, sooner or later your ex-boyfriend’s wife will find out. But even if he found out a little later, it would be better if he found out from someone other than you. Assuming your ex’s wife already doesn’t know and doesn’t like it, if the person bringing the bad news is angry or someone who can easily tell, your ex will have a much easier time convincing his wife. t is true. Better to hear it from the vicar.
I’m a gay kid in a big city and I want to do sex work as a side gig. But I don’t know how to start. First steps?
First steps: get vaccinated against monkeypox, hep A and B, and HPV, and switch to PrEP. Then talk to other people who have or have had sex. There are many sex workers on Twitter; Many are not asking customers, but protecting their rights and building community. Search and learn.
I met a guy It’s very talented at making me orgasm several times, but I’m having trouble getting it to come at all. Any advice?
If he doesn’t want to, don’t do it. Not a problem. But if he does not come because you want to force him to come with your hand, pussy or mouth and he cannot come in this way, then is there is a problem here and this you are. Allow her to enjoy oral and PIV and whatever else she likes before finishing herself off with the skillful hands she uses to get you off. The problem is solved.
What is the best oil For anal sex with sensitive skin?
We are big fans of Spunk. Full disclosure: This is not a paid endorsement, but the last time I mentioned Spunk in the column, they sent me the case. That was a few years ago… and we were almost out. Cough, cough.
We often talk about warning signs/red flags with kinky Doms. What about subs?
No one should play…
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